Making First Impression and Your Personality Development

Etiquette

Most people will judge you within the first 20 seconds of meeting you and their opinion will most likely never change. Making a good first impression is incredibly important, because you only get one shot at it.

How can you ensure people are judging you accurately and also seeing your best side? You never want to give people an inauthentic impression — many people can intuitively feel if someone is being fake immediately. However, any time you meet someone for the first time, you always want to start on the right foot.

Grooming is the part of Personality Development .By personality grooming one can learn how to keep positive thoughts even in worst conditions also .It helps us to establish our self in the corporate world successfully. It’s very important for a professional person to know how to communicate , to sit , to eat , to dress, to behave and how to manage oneself also.

A, B,C of Image

  • Appearance/Visual
    • Posture, wardrobe, grooming, hygiene
  • Behavior/How you say it.
    • Body language, Tone, Attitude
  • Communication/What you say.
    • Verbal, Nonverbal, Written

 First Impressions are Lasting Impressions

When you meet someone for the very first time either you remember something very good about the person or you remember something very bad about them. It doesn’t matter how delightful the person might be or how brilliant they might be, if they do not register a good impression in the first few seconds, in your mind, they have nothing to offer you.

Remember this: It only takes 30 seconds to make a lasting impression and that it will be the lasting impression people will retain.

Why? Because people’s perceptions are not easily changed and you are likely to keep projecting the same image. First impressions are crucial because they set the stage for future conversations, relationships, and business.

You have thirty seconds or less to make a first impression. Whatever happens during that time sets the stage for future relationships. You’re either creating positive impressions that will open doors, or negative impressions with untold consequences. Many times, we don’t know that people might think poorly of us because they simply avoid us. Or we’ve unknowingly created obstacles in a business relationship and have to work that much harder to establish trust. What do your communication skills say about you?

 

Do First Impressions last?

YES

Made with emotional not rational brain

Once made, the rational brain seeks validation

Don’t want to change opinions

Labels help make sense of world

Experience teaches us validity of first impressions

What do people see when they meet you?

  • .. Your Personality
  • Second – Your Posture and Carriage
  • Third – How do you look…your face
  • Fourth- What you are wearing
  • .. How you speak & listen
  • .. Your manners

Making Positive First Impressions.

 

How much value do you place on making a good initial impression? Do you subscribe to the theory, “You never get a second chance to make a good first impression”? Do you plan what you’re going to say when you meet someone important for the first time? First impressions are crucial. Every day we make snap judgments about with whom we want to do business. Every day we determine who our partners are and who the pretenders are.

REMEMBER!! YOU NEVER get a second chance to make a FIRST IMPRESSION

Your Personality

Personality is nothing but the aggregate conglomeration of memories and incidents in an individual’s entire life span. Environmental factors, family background, financial conditions, genetic factors, situations and circumstances also contribute to an individual’s personality.

In a layman’s language, how we behave in our day to day lives reflects our personality. How an individual behaves depends on his family background, upbringing, social status and so on. An individual with a troubled childhood would not open up easily. He/she would always hesitate to open his heart in front of others. Some kind of fear would always be there within him. An individual who never had any major problems in life would be an extrovert and would never have issues interacting and socializing with others. You really can’t blame an individual for not being an extrovert. It is essential to check his/her background or past life. It is quite possible that as a child, he was not allowed to go out of his home, play and freak out with friends. These individuals start believing that their home is their only world and they are not safe outside. Such a mindset soon becomes their personality.

Personality also influences what we think, our beliefs, values and expectations. What we think about others depends on our personality.

In a layman’s language personality is defined as the personal qualities and characteristics of an individual. Personality is how we interact with others. Personality is a sum of characteristics of an individual which makes him different from the others. It is our personality which makes us unique and helps us stand apart from the crowd.

Determinants of Personality

Following are the factors which help in shaping one’s personality:

Heredity – Heredity refers to factors that are determined once an individual is born. An individual’s physique, attractiveness, body type, complexion, body weight depend on his/her parents biological makeup.

Environment – The environment to which an individual is subjected to during his growing years plays an important role in determining his/her personality. The varied cultures in which we are brought up and our family backgrounds have a crucial role in shaping our personalities.

Situation – An individual’s personality also changes with current circumstances and situations. An individual would behave in a different way when he has enough savings with him and his behavior would automatically change when he is bankrupt.

WHAT IS SELF ESTEEM?

Self esteem is a state of mind. It isthe way you think and feel about yourself. Having high self esteem means having feelings of confidence, worthiness and positive regard for yourself. People  with high self esteem feel good about themselves. They feel a sense of belonging and security. They respect themselves and appreciate others. They tend to be successful in life because they feel confident in taking on challenges and risking failure to achieve what they want. They have more energy for positive pursuits because their energy is not wasted on negative emotions,feelings of inferiority or working hard to take care of or please others at the expense of their own self-care.

The amount of self esteem you have depends on many factors– how you were raised, parental attitudes, life experiences, etc. Sometimes people lose self esteem and feel bad about themselves because of failures or disappointments in life, or because of the way others in their lives have treated

them. It is important to know that self-esteem can be gained at any time in life. Ideally, it happens in childhood; realistically, most people have to cultivate it later in life.

Why develop Self Esteem?

The rewards of developing self esteem include being able to take risks, having positive  relationships, not being held back by fears and insecurities, pursuing your dreams and desires, making good choices and reaching your goals.

WHAT CAUSES LOW SELF ESTEEM?

It is believed that low self esteem is caused, in part, by negative emotional responses.

Criticism, teasing, punishment and abuse, poverty, economic deprivation, failure in school and many other factors affect our feelings of self-worth. Even race, religion, the media, culture and sex have an influence on how we feel about ourselves.

When negative thoughts and feelings take root early in life, they can become powerful thought patterns that form habits of thinking. Before long, we begin to think in ways that limit our growth and self-development. We begin to doubt ourselves and feel dissatisfied. We become afraid to accept challenges and feel unworthy, even when we do accomplish important things. The deeper these  thought pattern stake root, the lower our self esteem falls, until we cannot envision what it is like to feel good about ourselves.

Low self esteem is perpetuated by our behaviors, thoughts and actions. Read the following list and check those itemsthat you think contribute to your low self esteem:

___ A lack of faith, both in myself, other people and the world around me.

___ A lack of purpose or meaning in my life.

___ A lack of goalsto motivate and guide me.

___ Dependence on othersfor a sense of importance or meaning in my life.

___ Failing to accept responsibility for my life and well-being.

___ Failing to recognize, appreciate and reward myself.

___ Adhering to false concepts and assumptions about myself.

___ Feelings of negativity toward myself and others.

___ Failing to develop my abilities and talents.

___ Comparing myselfto others.

___ Feeling I have to prove myself to others.

___ Feeling a need to give in, please or agree with othersto be accepted.

___ Feeling I have to prove myself to others.

___ Resisting,fretting or worrying about thingsI can do nothing about.

___ Not allowing myselfthe freedom to make mistakes and fail.

___ Not allowing myself freedom of self expression.

___ Being impatient, harsh or demanding of myself.

One of the most important steps you can take toward achieving your greatest potential in life is to learn to monitor your attitude and its impact on your work performance, relationships and everyone around you.

Attitude is everything. It governs the way you perceive the world and the way the world perceives you.

Attitude is a state of mind

Your attitude is your mind-set

It is the way you look at things mentally

They indicate one’s feelings either favourably or unfavourably to persons, objects and or events

We all have a choice. We can choose an inner dialogue of self-encouragement and self-motivation, or we can choose one of self-defeat and self-pity. It’s a power we all have. Each of us encounters hard times, hurt feelings, heartache, and physical and emotional pain. The key is to realize it’s not what happens to you that matters; it’s how you choose to respond.

Your Posture and Carriage

Your posture is very important to your everyday health. Some say its the window to your spine. How you look and feel depend a great deal on Posture. We have all heard our mothers and fathers say, ” Sit up in Your Chair, Stop Slouching” or “Stand up Straight”- these words can be harsh, but they are so true. Bad posture can cause you pain in many areas such as the neck, upper back, mid back and lower back area. Lets talk more about posture, so that you can have the best posture possible.

The quickest way to see yourself is what? – Looking in the mirror, Right! Looking at our neck posture is the absolute simplest way to figure out why you experience neck pain. It’s also a great tool to use to prevent future neck pain and cervical degeneration. This article explains how we can understand what we are looking for in our neck posture, how to check our posture, and why it’s so important.

What is the Perfect Posture, and CAN I ACHIEVE IT?

From the front view your posture should be straight up and down- to see this in the mirror your shoulders and the tops of your hips should be even. You can look at points in your mid-body also to see if there are any shifts in your spine. For example, your shoulders may look even or level, but when you try to line up the point midline to your eyes to your to the middle of your chin to your Adam’s apple things don’t line up.

Looking at your whole body, a straight line should be able to be drawn from the point between your eyes to your Adam’s apple, to your groin (the point of the “V” where your legs meet, to a point midline between your ankle bones).

Looking at your posture from the side, the ear should line up with the front to middle of the shoulder, and further down to the hip, and to the ankle bone.

 

Personal Grooming

Clothes and manners do not make the man; but when he is made, they greatly improve his appearance. Your appearance influences the opinions of everyone around you. Your professionalism, intelligence, credibility, level of sophistication and the trust people form in you is reflected from your appearance.

The way you look and act determines what people think about you. If you smile – people think that you are pleasant, if you wear wrinkled clothing people think that you do not care. How you feel about yourself on the inside should be reflected on the outside. Some of us know this; some of us do not. If we want the outside world to respond to us in a positive way, we must look and act positively.

 What is grooming?

It is knowing what to do and putting it into practice on a daily basis.

It starts before you put on your clothing. It means taking care of

your physical self -hair, skin, face, hands and your total body.

Result : It helps to lift your morale and increases your self-esteem.

It means that you are taking care of yourself, and that is  is important!

What is Hygiene ?

Hygiene is an ongoing task. Have a Bath everyday. Your freshness

should come across. Rinse or wash your face at least two times a

day. Brush your teeth and use mouthwash daily. Drink plenty of water

to keep your insides clean. This will also help to keep your skin fresh

on the outside. If possible follow the Water Therapy.

Wear very little or no perfume. But in a country like ours , the use

of a mild fragranced deodorant is compulsory.

Hands, Feet and Nails

Your hands talk for you! They should be clean and smooth. Nails should be clipped short and should be along the shape of the fingers. Your feet should be kept clean, with no cracks. For the ladies, remember……Polish can be applied to both nails, but it should not be loud-i.e not too bright or trendy. Delicate colors give a sheen to nails. They can be devoid of polish also.

Make-Up

The reason for cosmetics is to make you look prettier and highlight your best features. Learn how to apply makeup properly. Make-up is essential but should be natural looking. The make –up should make you look fresh through out the day. The minimal -eyes should be be highlighted (kohl pencil/eye-liner) and lipstick be used. BUT the colors should be toned down and compatible to skin tone  and uniform/dress . Make-up , if required, can be refreshed during the  day but it should Never be applied in public.

Hair

Your hair should complement your face and complexion. Sport

a maintainable length and style.

  • Males:
  • Not fall over the ears, eyebrows or even touch the back of the collar
  • Will always present a neat appearance.
  • Facial hair should be neatly trimmed (moustache, sideburns, beards)

For ladies, if hair is longer than the jaw line,it should be tied or made into a bun .Hair holding devices should be in plain/natural colors. Hair should be styled such that it is away and out of your face. Wash your hair at least 2-3 times a week with a good quality shampoo. If you sport short hair, it should be washed more frequently.

Hair color should not be more than one or two shades darker or lighter than your natural hair color. Unnatural colors (burgundy, green, etc.) must be avoided.

Clothes

Clothes reveal :

Origin

Class

Personality

Occupation

Individual taste

Mood of  the wearer

Dress Code for Men

Shirts

Full sleeved in white or light shades  of cream, blue and grey.

The sleeves should stop at the wrist  and the cuffs should not  fall into the     palm of the hand.

No checks or prints, if striped then very  mild pin striped.

Well fitting collar of the right collar size,  and collar back height and collar front      height.

Trousers

Contemporary styled. Formal fabrics in shades of black, blue, gray or earth tones (browns).

No casual fabrics like cotton.

Legs of the trouser must not be so long as to fall in folds over the shoe.

Legs of the trousers should be long enough to cover the bare skin above the socks   when they are hitched up in a sitting posture.

Dress Code for Women

In India, we have the leeway of wearing an Indian /western outfit to work. This gives us a huge range to choose from-saris, salwar-suit, trousers with shirts/kurtis. Colors to be avoided- bright reds, florescent and extremely dark and loud colors.

Saree- It is the traditional outfit of India and provides grace to the female silhouette .The blouse should be decently tailored. The length of the pallav should go 2-3inches below the knee. The pallav and the pleats  should be folded and pinned –up properly, to give a tidy look.

Salwar-suit- the fashion prevalent should be followed.

Trousers with shirts/Kurtis.

In all cases, care should be taken to see that the outfit gives a look of

Poise, grace and professionalism. It should not look vulgar/indecent. Thus care to be taken over the depth of the neckline.

Footwear

It should be comfortable. No stilettos. The heels should not go beyond 1-2”. They can be sandals/ platforms or shoes.

Accessories

Women should follow the 5 piece rule-1 pair of earrings, 1 watch, 1Ring/hand, 1 bangle /hand.

 

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